Bereavement

If you have come to this page as a bereaved person we would like to offer you our sympathy, we trust that some the information available will be of help to you.

Almost everyone, during their lifetime, will experience the death of someone close or known to them. This is likely to be one of the most painful experiences we will ever have to face.

Everyone experiences grief differently; there is no normal or right way to grieve. How we react will be influenced by many different things. Disbelief and numbness, painful searching for the lost loved one and deep sadness are just some of the reactions that make up the experience of bereavement. We need to acknowledge our feelings and express them as we wish. Grieving is itself part of the recovery, of coming to terms in so many different ways, and in so many different situations, with the loss of the person we love

People may find it helpful to have some additional support during bereavement.

  • There are written resources available which can offer information, help and guidance.
  • Various organisations can also provide support or information relating to different circumstances of bereavement. The following booklet contains practical information which may be useful to loved ones who are having to deal with the many initial arrangements which are required. Information on living and coping with bereavement and a list of relevant support agencies is also included.
    The Northern Trust’s booklet ‘When someone dies: Information guidance and support for family and friends.’

Go to http://www.northerntrust.hscni.net/services/1847.htm for further details of resources and support organisations.

Supporting bereaved people

Many people find it difficult to talk to or be with someone who has experienced a recent bereavement; they feel unsure of how to respond to his or her loss.

  • Often people simply want to talk and for someone to listen, so “being there” for the person is perhaps the best thing you can do.  The bereaved person may want to talk about their memories of the dead person, or events surrounding their death. This is all part of coming to terms with what has happened and can take a long time.
  • Practical things can make all the difference; small acts of kindness such as visiting the home, texting or calling, making meals, helping with household chores or shopping.
  • Lifeline Crisis Response (0808 808 8000) If you, or someone you know, are in distress or despair, no matter what your age or where you live in Northern Ireland, Lifeline is there to help you. Lifeline counsellors are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to listen and give you the help and support you need, in confidence. Calls are free from all UK landlines and mobiles.